All living beings are sexually wired to react or respond to the opposite sex. Plants, animals, insects and humans are equal here. The mere presence of a person or being or life form of the opposite sex kindles in the other gender, sexual desires or feelings that demand actualization. These feelings increase with each minute spent together. When two people of the opposite are together alone and, especially if they have not had sexual intercourse previously, this feeling build up rather very fast. The build up happens regardless of whether they find each other attractive or not. When the two people of the opposite sex do find each other attractive, the intensity of this feeling more than doubles. The result is what I would like to describe as sexually charged highly intense feeling.
In ninety nine per cent of the time, people have mistaken this sexually charged highly intense feeling as love. Because of the nature of this feeling and its speed of build up when the two people find each other attractive, is why you hear such expressions as being madly in love with someone. This sexually charged highly intense feeling is not love. It is not even pretended love if there is anything like that. The sexually charged highly intense feeling is mere animal instinct wired in man to ensure that he or she is motivated to populate the earth. Call it nature trick or whatever other name that may give you comfort. I call it motivation to force man’s intransigent mind to do an important responsibility he would have been very glad to dodge were things to be otherwise.
The common scenario today in dating and other pre-marriage relationships is for people to announce failing or being in love with someone they have just met. The truth is that it is not possible to be in love with a man or woman you just met. Being in love with someone to the point of proposing and accepting marriage cannot genuinely happen in less than six months of relationship at the barest minimum. For many cases, true love may never come before one or more years into the marriage relationship itself.
Misconstruing the sexually charged highly intense feeling as love, people have justified their involving in premarital sexual intercourse. Premarital sex, regardless of the circumstances under which it is procured and given, is not just evil in the religious sense, it is harmful to the development of genuine love and the mutual respect necessarily required for the evolution and growth of love between a man and a woman. True love is not even a justification for sexual intercourse even in a marriage relationship. Sexual intercourse has a special place and purpose in the life of living beings. True love can make sexual intercourse a good thing but that is all, it does not make it the right thing in all circumstances. This is because the purpose and place of sexual intercourse is divinely designed to take place in legal and lawful marriage. When sexual intercourse is toyed with, the ramifications are so dire that the practitioners live in the shame, sorrow, regret and the torment it produces for a long time. The impact has the capacity to disrupt the lives of those involved permanently. When people are involved in the misuse of sexual intercourse – and this is irrespective of what they thought they felt at the time – the spiritual, social, mental and emotional cost are usually out of proportion to the imagined or supposed benefit of doing it.
The question now is how is a girl, a boy, a man or a woman to know if he or she is genuinely in love enough with someone of the opposite sex to warrant marriage and the appropriate consummation of the marriage through sexual intercourse?
In responding to this question, it is important to note that whenever you feel the rushing feeling to connect sexually with a person of the opposite, then, it is a signal that you do not have respect for the person. There can be no real love without mutual respect. If the feeling that aroused in you in the presence of the opposite sex, especially from the man to the woman, is a desire to have sexual intercourse with the woman, then, know it that what you have is sexually charged highly intense feeling. It is not love for love must go with mutual respect and respect does not think in terms of sexual intercourse.
Sexual intercourse outside marriage is the first evidence of lack of self-respect and respect for the other person.
But if you find yourself in the presence of a member of the opposite where you mind is at peace, no anxieties and in whose presence you feel fired to be your best in attitude, composure and speech, then you are most probably in the presence of a loveable man or woman.
Think about it.